How to Navigate the Holidays and Recovery with Healthy Boundaries

The holidays can be a joyful yet challenging time, especially when balancing celebration with recovery. If you’re maintaining sobriety during the holidays, it’s essential to plan ahead, set clear expectations, and surround yourself with supportive people who respect your journey.

Share Your Sobriety Goals with Trusted People

Talking openly with supportive friends or family members can make maintaining your sobriety during the holidays easier.

You do not need to disclose all details about your drinking history. Some of my patients have disclosed by saying something like – “I want to let you know something personal. I’ve been taking some time off from any alcohol, and I would appreciate it, if you supported me this holiday season”

When loved ones know your goals, they can offer accountability, avoid offering drinks, and help you feel more comfortable at gatherings.

Decide Who to Include in Your Recovery Conversations

Discussing your recovery is a personal choice. You don’t need to share details with everyone – just a few trusted individuals who respect your boundaries. Simple statements like, “I’m focusing on my health this holiday season,” can be enough to communicate your commitment without overexplaining.

Set Clear Boundaries Around Drinking

Setting boundaries is key to balancing holidays and recovery. If someone insists you drink, it’s okay to say no or change the subject. Have an exit plan if you start to feel overwhelmed, and don’t hesitate to step away or reach out to your sponsor or support network.

Practice Self-Compassion and Protect Your Space

If certain gatherings or people might jeopardize your sobriety, give yourself permission to skip them. Maintaining sobriety during the holidays sometimes means choosing rest, peace, and emotional safety over social expectations.

Lean on Your Sobriety Support Network

Recovery thrives in community. If you’re part of a 12-step program, connect with your sponsor or group to stay grounded. Sharing experiences with others who understand the challenges of holidays and recovery can make it easier to open up and stay accountable.

Build New Traditions That Support Your Recovery

Surround yourself with others maintaining sobriety during the holidays. Plan sober gatherings, volunteer events, or new holiday traditions that align with your recovery and support your well-being. Create new traditions and holiday memories that fit your recovery and your healthy lifestyle! Examples of new activities could include a holiday 5K, baking day, charity or volunteer activity, or a game night with the kids. Score: 7.33